What makes relationships different from couple to couple? Why is that some couples seem to be so damn happy together that others often develop a kind of jealousy against them? Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort and time, and obviously it cannot just happen overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and stay strong you need to put in some hard work, and we actually mean it!
Below are some habits that will create and maintain a happy and healthy twosome.
Communication is the key when it comes to relationships! Happy and healthy couples have their communication game down. They communicate the good and vocalize their love for one another, and it is not just about saying “I love you” often or offering compliments, it is very important to communicate both the good and the bad, it is as simple as what your partner goes through the entire day. In order to move forward and grow as a couple, you two need to be able to truly talk about your feelings. No matter how awkward or uncomfortable it feels, it will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
Respect is also one of the vital elements of a healthy relationship. Respecting your partner comes in many forms. Maintaining a joyful relationship means respecting your partner’s time, heart, character, choices and everything that the partner aspires to do or be.
It is all about quality over quantity. It doesn’t matter how much time you and your partner spend together, the most important part is about the quality of this time! There’s a huge difference between having dinner at a table while talking about your day at work, versus having dinner while sitting on a couch watching your favorite movie or serial or anything together! Right?
Spending time together with your partner is important but so is spending time apart. Being able to do your own things and remain independent is vital. When couples spend too much time together, it sometimes creates an unhealthy codependent relationship. However, maintaining healthy boundaries and some autonomy will make for a long-lasting partnership.
Different people have different ways of expressing their love, not everyone is into gifts or too much of praise, but it is very important to understand what makes your partner feel loved, identify their and your own language of love! Simple things like words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, acts of service, and physical touch makes people happy and therefore it is important to know what love language speaks to you, along with your partner. Telling each other what makes you feel loved and special helps both of you stay connected.
Often, we forget to let other people in our lives know that we appreciate them. We think it becomes obvious and they themselves understand it, which is not always true. It is important to show your special someone that you love him or her; appreciation can do miracles at times.
‘A flower a day keeps the relationship fights at bay’. Okay, maybe not every day, but you get the point!
There are arguments in every relationship time and again, it is crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work through the hard times together. There should not be needless and arguments over petty issues, pick and choose your battles wisely because that is what people in happy and healthy relationships do.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, or even if it is, it might not be the kind of grass you would even like! We often compare our lives to others - what jobs people have, their homes, or their clothes. We tend to do the same with our relationships as well, what we do not realize is the outer picture is not always the truth, some people may seem to be so-much-in-love kind of couple but we do not know them on the inside.
There’s no denial that sex is important in cultivating a flourishing relationship. The fundamentals with sex are simple, the more you have it, the more you want it and the less you have it, the less you will want. And, unfortunately, the less you feel connected to your partner will follow. Keep your sex life alive and interesting. ‘Spice things up’ is not just a phrase for the kitchen activities, you see!